I couldn’t blog last night. After watching the Canucks game downtown at Karen’s house, we wandered back home amongst the rest of the sad and disappointed fans. The energy was dull last night, that’s for sure. When we were walking over the bridge back to Kits, we saw everyone staring at a big cloud of smoke rising up from the city. We didn’t think much of it but figured there was some not so good stuff going down. When I saw the tv screen later at home, my mouth dropped. It hit me hard. I was devastated, shocked, saddened and most of all embarrassed. This is the city that I love most in the world, and look what a few select people were doing to it. Ruining it. Ruining its beautiful reputation. I started to take it personal. It affected me more than I thought it could.
I was too upset to write last night. I still felt in a bit of a funk today. Angry and embarrassed. Things started to turn around when I got a facebook invite from a friend to help clean up the city which over 20,000 people were attending. I saw some pictures of the true Vancouverites cleaning up last nights mess as well as writing messages on the temporary fixed windows. Everyone was apparently feeling the way I was. One line that struck me and brought a smile of hope to my face was this, “I love this city and will be there to help for sure! I won’t trash the people who trashed the place, instead I’ll just pick the trash up.“
Ego-less. Caring. Loving. Hope. That’s what this statement is beaming with. All it takes is one person of a group to be able to bring a whole team down – if we allow it to. It could be that negative person in your work place, the selfish player on your team, or the small percentage of hooligans looking for trouble in your city. Either way, reacting forcefully and angrily isn’t necessarily going to make a difference. This is what they want. They want to bring people down with them. They are happy living in their own misery.
The next time you come across this situation, try not to trash the person. Instead, pick up where they are lacking. Show extra support to the person who seems to be taking it the most personal. Show extra kindness to everyone else around you. Keep doing what you love and enjoying what you’re doing without letting them get you down. You’ll be surprised at how things might just shift. No force required. And remember, nothing is ever personal. We choose the way we re-act. No one forces us to act in a certain way. We responsibly act the way we choose to act.
Turn the other cheek. Keep doing good. Keep doing what you do best. Don’t take anything personal. Don’t let one person wreck it for the whole. Instead of trashing the person who is bringing you down, pick up where they are lacking. Pick up their trash. Give. Give. Give. Maybe even start focusing what you like about this person. What you appreciate about them. Who knows, they might just start to turn around. Or maybe your attitude might start to shift away from annoyment and anger. If you let it go, you can let more of the good stuff in.
Smile with your heart.
Oh, and I’m sorry to say that I broke down and had a few beers last night – I couldn’t NOT have a cold brewsky at an event that seems to only happen every 17 years! We made an exception :) I’ll be back tomorrow night, since I missed yesterday. Have a happy Friday!