Day 32 – If you love something…

If you love something, let it go.  This is one of the many things I took with me from my yoga class tonight.  It got me thinking – about everything.  And it brought me back to my initial cookie budget once again!  (Now are you starting to understand my obsession with cookies??!).  I’m learning so much about myself through our Not-So-Dirty-Thirty Clean Eating Challenge.  So much.  I had no idea it would make me think about all aspects of my life.

I have had a love affair with cookies, and sugar for that matter, for as long as I can remember.  Cookies made me feel better.  They were there when I wanted them and always made me feel good.  I even enjoy baking cookies for people in hopes to bring about a smile and a happy tummy.  Funny thing though, this thing that I love so much is actually not doing me any good. Sugar. It’s like a drug.  The more cookies I have, the more that I want and think I need.  Even too much of a good thing can become detrimental.

Did you know that if you are allergic to a certain food, it is possible for your body to crave it even more? When you eat an allergen,  you cause a reaction in your body that produces histamines (which are a side effect of your antibodies fighting the allergen) – and they actually make you feel good.  They are damaging to your body, but they also release a soothing effect on the body.  When you crave an allergen, you are craving that soothing effect that the histamines release. You are unknowingly seeking out foods that are causing your antibodies to release histamines. That is why cravings can seem uncontrollable at times – both physically and emotionally.

When I started relating the cookies to letting go of something I loved, I also thought about relating it to people.  Sometimes the things/people we love so much aren’t actually doing us any good, at the moment.  Perhaps in some ways there are people that are like an addiction.  It feels good for the moment, but then you are left feeling alone, sad, upset, resentful, and angry (which only ends up really harming you).  Every time you see this person when you are in this needy/addictive state, you only begin to feel more resentful towards them.  Just like the addiction to histamine (the feel good hormone), we may begin to form an emotional addiction to a person. Most of the time when this happens, we don’t like the way we tend to act – just like when you’ve had a whole bunch of unhealthy food.  You feel gross.  Same with when you’re getting your fix from an unhealthy relationship – it doesn’t feel good.  It actually becomes toxic to your whole system – even from a cellular level.

It’s times like these that you may need to press the re-set button on a personal relationship, and take some time apart.  Maybe that relationship isn’t serving you at this exact moment.  I know that I’ve had a few tough times with friends in the past, and time has helped heal.  I believe that we can heal our bodies of anything – even things we are allergic too.  So why wouldn’t we be able to heal ourselves of emotional allergies? Sometimes we need to push the re-set button in all aspects of our lives.  Cookies, unhealthy relationships, alcohol, anything that isn’t serving you at the moment.  Often when we step away from the ‘allergen’ we see that it was never doing us any good.  Other times, we learn to adjust ourselves, we grow, we change, we become clean from the inside out – and then we can gradually and lovingly let it back in.  You always know.  If you love something, let it go….

If you’re noticing an unhealthy balance of relationships in your life, press the re-set button.  Re-connect with your source.  Take some time for you.  Start from the basics.   It doesn’t have to be forever, but you do need to allow yourself to re-center.  To become clean of any negative feelings.  Send this person love every time you think of them.  When you do this, your shrivelled up angry cells will begin to be filled with love.  Healthy mind.  Healthy cells.  Healthy body.  Work on yourself.  What is it about this person that affects you so much?  What can I learn from this?  Remember, no one makes us feel any certain way – we choose how we want to re-act in every situation.  Maybe you can learn from the button they are pushing in you, or where the source of neediness is coming from.  And remember… everything and everyone who comes into our life is a teacher. There is always so much to learn.

Smile with your heart!

Here are some pictures from our Zen-day paddle boarding adventure in Deep Cove – I can’t seem to get enough of it!!  What a great way to start the day :)

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  1. Best best best post today! I can totally relate to cravings. Before I found out I had celiac disease I used to crave bread, pastries, pasta, cookies – essentially everything with the most amount of gluten – all the time and it was a terrible roller coaster ride! Then when I eliminated my allergen I have never craved it, well, some gluten free cookies I cave to once a month…now, I crave fruit, vegetables, protein. I feel like I am more in-tune with my body.Secondly, you have motivated me to nix my new coffee addiction. I never used to drink coffee until this year (I am 29). I have tried twice to make it a 40-day challenge, but I don’t last two days! After you kicked your cookie habit, I feel like I can make the 40 days!! I am going to use the 2 dollars and 20 cents I spend on coffee each day to buy a cute summer dress at the end of 40 consequtive days without coffee (I am replacing it with green tea, some caffeine, but not as addictive)!
    Thank you again Jen for your blog!!

  2. Hi Jenn,
    I recently came across your site via the Lululemon blog and I just have to say I love your blog and I relate to so much you write about. (I didn’t say ALL – I mean, I would never give up cookies. That’s just madness). But seriously, this post in particular speaks to me and what’s happening in my life, and I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings because it does resonate, and that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it? Connecting with people.
    As I said, I could never give up sugar, but have you seen this book called Sweet Poison? You might be interested in checking it out:-
    Anyhoo, thanks again and I look forward to reading more great insights and info on your site; keep up the great work!
    Sarah x

    • Wow, just checked it out – thanks for sharing. Crazy stats. We forget how sugar is added to so much of the foods we eat. Very informative!!! Thanks Sarah!

  3. YES i totally agree with you. sometimes we have to let go what we love because it just simply isn’t good for us. and in my case, i really really need to let go of some stuff which is so bad for me yet i remain stubborn. so stubborn.
    it’s really nice to know that i’m not alone sometimes (and i don’t mean this in a sadistic selfish way!)
    superb post, im really addicted to your blog you know … hehe :)

    x, Jen

  4. This was a great article. And it came at the perfect time. You got me thinking and helped! Thank you for the inspiration that you give every day!

  5. This blog today really hit home. If only pressing the reset button was as easy as eating cookies =). Just got to gather some courage, take some time out for me and hit reset! It’s great to know you aren’t always alone in what you are going through, thanks Jen!

  6. You amaze me everyday you write. It’s like your reading my mind, know what’s going on in my life and are answering questions that need answers…

    Im speechless and so grateful for your daily ThAnKYOU


  7. Thank you! I’ve been struggling with my NEED for sugar all the time and I’ve been trying so hard to wrap my head around this NEED for sugar I know isn’t good for me and wanting my NEED to go away… (grin) and reading your post today felt so freeing, it all just clicked….so simple, just let it go…thank you, thank you, thank you! Today is day 2 of letting it go. Feel like I just broke up with my best friend (lol)….it was toxic anyway! Have a great day! – Jana

    • Congrats on the committment!!! That’s the hardest part – deciding to do it!! For me, it’s probably the best thing I’ve ever done – Loving it!!

  8. Some great insight in this post. I enjoyed it very much! You have offered a lot of guindance and encouragement and instead of dreading my upcoming 30 day challenge I am really excited to get started!
    Keep posting and keep inspiring!

  9. JT – this is your best post yet! It’s so honest and so thoughtful and you’ve tied in a few things here that really go well together. You’ve made me think about two different aspects of my life that I need to really let go and why (a guy… and sugar!). Both aren’t so great for me and after reading your post, I think it’s sunk in as to why. I’m wishing you success in your new diet “experiement” and I think I may try my own 4 day experiement with sugar! Hope you have a fabulous day :)

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