If you love something, let it go. This is one of the many things I took with me from my yoga class tonight. It got me thinking – about everything. And it brought me back to my initial cookie budget once again! (Now are you starting to understand my obsession with cookies??!). I’m learning so much about myself through our Not-So-Dirty-Thirty Clean Eating Challenge. So much. I had no idea it would make me think about all aspects of my life.
I have had a love affair with cookies, and sugar for that matter, for as long as I can remember. Cookies made me feel better. They were there when I wanted them and always made me feel good. I even enjoy baking cookies for people in hopes to bring about a smile and a happy tummy. Funny thing though, this thing that I love so much is actually not doing me any good. Sugar. It’s like a drug. The more cookies I have, the more that I want and think I need. Even too much of a good thing can become detrimental.
Did you know that if you are allergic to a certain food, it is possible for your body to crave it even more? When you eat an allergen, you cause a reaction in your body that produces histamines (which are a side effect of your antibodies fighting the allergen) – and they actually make you feel good. They are damaging to your body, but they also release a soothing effect on the body. When you crave an allergen, you are craving that soothing effect that the histamines release. You are unknowingly seeking out foods that are causing your antibodies to release histamines. That is why cravings can seem uncontrollable at times – both physically and emotionally.
When I started relating the cookies to letting go of something I loved, I also thought about relating it to people. Sometimes the things/people we love so much aren’t actually doing us any good, at the moment. Perhaps in some ways there are people that are like an addiction. It feels good for the moment, but then you are left feeling alone, sad, upset, resentful, and angry (which only ends up really harming you). Every time you see this person when you are in this needy/addictive state, you only begin to feel more resentful towards them. Just like the addiction to histamine (the feel good hormone), we may begin to form an emotional addiction to a person. Most of the time when this happens, we don’t like the way we tend to act – just like when you’ve had a whole bunch of unhealthy food. You feel gross. Same with when you’re getting your fix from an unhealthy relationship – it doesn’t feel good. It actually becomes toxic to your whole system – even from a cellular level.
It’s times like these that you may need to press the re-set button on a personal relationship, and take some time apart. Maybe that relationship isn’t serving you at this exact moment. I know that I’ve had a few tough times with friends in the past, and time has helped heal. I believe that we can heal our bodies of anything – even things we are allergic too. So why wouldn’t we be able to heal ourselves of emotional allergies? Sometimes we need to push the re-set button in all aspects of our lives. Cookies, unhealthy relationships, alcohol, anything that isn’t serving you at the moment. Often when we step away from the ‘allergen’ we see that it was never doing us any good. Other times, we learn to adjust ourselves, we grow, we change, we become clean from the inside out – and then we can gradually and lovingly let it back in. You always know. If you love something, let it go….
If you’re noticing an unhealthy balance of relationships in your life, press the re-set button. Re-connect with your source. Take some time for you. Start from the basics. It doesn’t have to be forever, but you do need to allow yourself to re-center. To become clean of any negative feelings. Send this person love every time you think of them. When you do this, your shrivelled up angry cells will begin to be filled with love. Healthy mind. Healthy cells. Healthy body. Work on yourself. What is it about this person that affects you so much? What can I learn from this? Remember, no one makes us feel any certain way – we choose how we want to re-act in every situation. Maybe you can learn from the button they are pushing in you, or where the source of neediness is coming from. And remember… everything and everyone who comes into our life is a teacher. There is always so much to learn.
Smile with your heart!
Here are some pictures from our Zen-day paddle boarding adventure in Deep Cove – I can’t seem to get enough of it!! What a great way to start the day :)