Growing up, my mom always encouraged me to do what I wanted to do regardless if anybody else wanted to join me or not. I’m so glad I now have this engrained in me. This was me last night at the wedding. I met Niki in my first semester of Nursing school, over 4 years ago now. We both decided to take a break from the program after that one and only semester together and go our separate ways, but we still kept in touch. I was so honoured to be invited to her wedding – even though she would be the only person out of about 400 that I knew – no date, no worries!
I wasn’t going to let that stop me that I didn’t know anyone. Not having a date to bring wasn’t going to stop me either. I wanted to be there for her, so I went. By myself, not knowing anyone. I actually really like this – entering a room and quickly making the once over glance to find any people I’m instantly drawn to. I guess I find it kind of interesting and fun. Meeting new people and learning from people I normally wouldn’t have a conversation with. Putting myself out there, out of my comfort zone, to learn & grow. I guess you could say it’s a bit of a challenge, but for some reason I like that! The first girl I was drawn to and started talking to had recently done her yoga teacher training in India. Inspiring. Within 3 minutes of entering the room I felt intrigued, inspired and so glad that I went!
If you want to do something but have no one else who wants to go, do it anyways! Often doing things by yourself is an easier way to meet new people. I find this to be so true, especially with traveling. It’s almost hard to stay by yourself when you’re anywhere alone. You’re less intimidating and you’re usually so pumped to be there that people sense this. You are there because you REALLY want to be, so that sends off a positive and intriguing vibe! Go anyways!! If you’re doing what you love, you will always be around people who love the same thing as you, so don’t even worry about it!
Speaking of dates, I am honestly humbled and blown away that I have already achieved my goal of raising 500$ towards imagine1day for Crush101. That is crazy!!! Thank you to EVERYONE who donated towards this cause! You don’t know how good this feels – THANK YOU!!! I am already learning so much from this dating challenge. To be honest, I’m pretty happy in my life right now so I’m not desperate to be going on 10 dates – that’s not at all the point of this for me. For me, I’m using it as an opportunity to learn about myself. I’ve already hurdled over the scare factor in the ‘asking a guy out’ situation (if you’re curious, I achieved my goal and did ask a guy out – not hard at ALL!). Why was I so scared before? Really, it’s just a question – a gift – and I’m totally okay talking to people so what was it that made me so scared? Rejection. It all boils down to this. My ego. That thing that tells us we’re not good enough, that encourages us to hide behind a mask. Who cares if I get rejected. Really? What’s the big deal. If we don’t ask for things in life, we can’t hear the word ‘YES!’.
Another thing I’ve learned through this challenge – and it’s only been 3 weeks! – is that we really can believe anything we convince ourselves to believe. Vancouver is known for a common stigma. The stigma that there are no good guys in Vancouver – all of the good ones are taken. Whenever I hear this, I instantly tell whoever is saying it to STOP saying this! Instead of saying ‘it’s impossible to find a good man in this city’, I help encourage them to say, “it’s impossible to stay single in this city!” So much better! All it takes is a change of thought.
Just from being a bit more pro-active about the whole dating situation, I’ve learned that yes, there are many fine gentlemen out there – good, kind, successful MEN. No these guys aren’t necessarily at the bars or pubs where women go to get frustrated with the lack of them. They’re in your groups of friends. They’re busy just like you loving their lives, doing what they love. They’re anywhere you want them to be. Whatever you tell yourself, you will believe. If you believe that all the good ones are taken, so be it. If you believe that there are amazing and kind people wherever you go, so be it. You will attract more of what you believe, so pay attention to your thoughts!!
Do what you love and you will meet great people! If you have no one to go with, GO ANYWAYS!! Be-proactive with what you want in life. If your’e sitting around waiting for things to happen, then good luck to you. Like I’ve said before, if you want something in life – REACH OUT AND GRAB IT!! :) A broken record, yes. But I genuinely believe this so much to be true – and I want you to live your greatest life imaginable – so get in the game. Don’t watch from the sidelines and let it pass you by. Life is too short for that. Get out there and EN-JOY IT!
Smile with your heart!
P.s. Thank you Anita (a.k.a. Mar – JC’s mom!) for your comment on my las post about ‘chopping ahead’ one or two days a week to make them easy to grab! Check out my ‘chopped ahead’ fridge for the week! Thanks for inspiring my happy fridge this week Mar!! :)