With anything really, what’s the harm in asking?? The worst answer you can get is a ‘no’, which means – move along. NEXT! I had a great tea stroll along the seawall after work tonight with one of my fav’s – Miss. Steph Irwin. No, we did not talk about men the whole time, but I did get a little inspiration and a boost of courage from miss inspiration herself.
Sidenote: When Elizabeth Gilbert was asked what ONE thing she would change about her past experiences if she could – Her answer: “I wish I didn’t waste so much of my time chasing men. I could have learned Mandarin!”. Well put miss Gilbert! Well put.
Back to the asking men/women out thing. What’s the worst that can happen when we ask someone a question. We get a no. Instead of looking at the situation as a possible rejection (totally negative and not confident whatsoever), we can look at it as a way to make someone smile. A way to make their day. How good does it feel when someone gives you a compliment? Or even perhaps asks to get to know you? It feels great! It means they think you’re a cool person who would make their day better by spending time with them. Why wouldn’t I want to give this gift to someone else. It’s a gift! A compliment! I think you are a great person, so I’m going to give you a gift and ask to get to know you better. I’m going to help make your day! To leave you wearing a smile – either way. What a MUCH better way of looking at this scary situation! You make it out to be so easy Steph! My goal this week – to give a “compliment” in person (a.k.a. ask a guy out) by Sunday. Not so scary anymore!
By the way, you are all so AMAZING!! $250 raised towards imagine1day!! THANK YOU!! I can’t believe it!! I feel obligated now to do my part, and start asking these fine gentlemen out! THANK YOU! (p.s. I have date numero uno this weekend!)
With anything in life, we don’t know what we’re missing out on if we don’t ask. If we don’t apply ourselves. If we don’t go after what we want. We can sit on the sidelines, hoping that it will come to us, OR we can be proactive about what we really want in life and REACH OUT AND GRAB IT!! Ask for it!! Do one thing a day that scares you. ASK! Put yourself out there. Don’t wait for it. Go after it. Who cares if you get a ‘no’. That just means ‘not right now’. Change direction a bit, then ask again. Confidence. That is what this screams. Radiating confidence and knowing what you want. Now THAT’s attractive! If you don’t ask, they can’t say YES!!! SO ASK!!!
Smile with your heart!
Oooh!!! And thank you Diana, the beautiful founder of Tiny Devotions, for sending me flowers today at work!! I couldn’t believe it when I received an email from reception letting me know I had something for me at the front desk (thinking perhaps a new pencil sharpener maybe? My own stapler?) FLOWERS!! You brightened up my whole day!!! And my whole living room for that matter! This is the first time I’ve ever received flowers at work! Thank you for spreading the love this way, all the way from the East Coast! I’m so blessed to have you in my life and be a part of the Tiny Devotions team! Vancouverites are starting to sport them everywhere! Spring has sprung – it feels good! I love how everyone who has bought one from me genuinely tells me how good it feels to wear. I love hearing this, because they are feeling what I do from mine. YES! Spreading the love!! Something so great is happening – I’m so happy to be a part of it.